It is What It Is

So often we go through life and things don't go our way. We want an outcome, a solution, a scenario to occur and we push for it. Ambition a fine line when it comes to our power. We can visualize things yet have to have an acceptance of reality of what really is. I often find we get lost in the visualization, the imagination and the pushing for what we want. Emotional turmoil sets in when it is a look at reality that we need.

Control is the underlying truth of this process. It is a sneaky ego trick that can be most subtle. We are to foremost be aware of what is really going on. When it comes to another, we can not control what will occur and it is not our work to attempt to control or force an outcome. Control of another or control of outside conditions are the same process that can fog that which is.

It is important to have clear seeing, have truth of what is happening. When it comes to our "perspective", it can color how we see things. So a discernment of seeing what is, a key tool to awareness, creation and moving through life. For example, I am in the process of divorce. I have a visual of how I would like it to go. This is perfect to see things in grace and ease as I walk through. This is my picture and idea, I can work towards this. However, I must also notice what is occurring and not resist when this grace and ease doesn't occur. I must watch my imagination that wants to take facts and color them. If we don't get what we want, we can always take the facts and fool ourselves in the hopefulness that if we keep doing something, it will work out as we want.

I can not control this outcome, only my energy and participation in it. If it doesn't go in grace and ease, I should not judge it as wrong or bad, I just see that which is. There is no control of these outside conditions. I control how I see them. Rather than keep imagining it is going to go as I want or if I do this or that it will change, I need to pay attention to what is accruing truly, accept it and work with it to visualize how I will work with the reality.

This view is a tricky situation. We face so many things where we are caught in the expectation of what we want, imagine what is occurring, begin resisting and than try to force that which we see and desire. We can get so lost in all these areas of minding, resistance, anger or expectation that will take us out of the reality of what is truly occurring.

I can't change how my husband will view this situation or force him to participate in it as I would like. He gets free choice and my judging of that only creates an issue for me. In awareness, there is a constant state of seeing what is and adjusting yourself towards your goal, not expecting others or conditions to adjust. Often we do expect, then go into temper tantrum of sorts as though that will force the conditions we want. As we all know for we all do this, it does nothing but get you upset, righteous and often even a victim role.

Acceptance is so huge a law and the first one in any situation. It also implies, neutrality with things. When you accept what is occurring, you are neutral about the facts as a scientist is. This is easier said than done when it comes to our life yet it is the easiest way to continue forward movement and create. It takes us adjusting ourselves, our attitudes, our actions, our way to adapt to the situation. When we do get to that place where we say, it is what it is, without judgment or thinking we can do anything about it, we then can have movement. You all know what this feels like for we all get exhausted and just accept at some point.

Once acceptance of the fact, of the reality, of what is truly occurring, all the thoughts and emotions are not present with an idea about it. That is when visualization, cooperation, movement and clear action can keep going forward. The rest is ego, our personal desire, our push toward our wishes and it will get us in turmoil.

If I accept what is occurring with my divorce, that it is going differently than I would like, find a way to be neutral, I am back in control of myself, my options and how I will continue forward for the best I can make it for me. This is the power position. This is where the creative mind can step in and support me. Using it another way becomes a drama, wastes energy wanting other than is and can swirl our being into days of negative emotion.

I share this as I walk through understanding these different tools of creation and how to use them wisely, without ego, controlling attitudes and judgmental thoughts that will bring me nothing but distress. We all can land at this place through trying over and over again until we are exhausted and give up to that which is. Or we could use our own awareness to really untangle how we are seeing and participating in something to get clearer faster, without all the negativity. Not necessarily easy but certainly worth the awareness to save ourselves from additional self created strife and stress.

This is a process I continue to learn in all areas for our patterns, thinking and emotions are quite well tuned to react and often we can't see our own ways we add to our confusion. Awareness is not easy but it is worth the reflection as we are creators and we want to hone our powers of using this creative power properly. It is a process of many variables, to master ones life takes seeing clearly our responses and readjusting them. For it is the only power we really have in situations.

Acceptance and neutrality are very important in living a life clearly. See what is happening, don't judge or speculate or whine,  find a way to get peace, cooperate with it and move it forward. Emotions can create unnecessary turmoil and thinking. In acceptance, notice your feeling or desires that are negative about it. You can feel that way then let it go. Move to neutral, see the facts, make due from there and life will be clearer. Forward movement will get you out of the strife quicker. Take responsibility for your part and views. It is what it is. Flow with it and move on to making what you can truly control a pleasure.

Remember, action and doing are what get us anywhere. Thinking about things and emotionalizing all generally occur while you sit. You are out of presence, your are really doing nothing and we lose alot of time in this cartoon bubble of thinking. We are out of presence, out of the now and just lost in the computer mind of blah, blah blah. Certainly a waste of our time most days!

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