The Magic of Forgiveness

One of the greatest tools for moving forward, clearing your past and opening yourself to new things is forgiveness. We have all heard this, but do we use it as the tool it is? I am not one to revel in the past. Present awareness, constantly bringing yourself to the moment and the situation at hand is the most powerful and exciting life experience. Yet as we are moving along, the past does come to the present, then it is the perfect time to clear and move through using this tool.

Often, we get in a situation that brings forward our past. We use our experience to know what is coming and what to do. Possibly someone says something and you think "Oh I know where this is going." Or it reminds you of a way you were treated before and you get a red flag for you find yourself  not trusting, or realizing this may not be what you want to get involved it. There are times this is the perfect flag to say "Watch out." Other times, we are truly in a new situation and your pattern is coming forward not because that is reality, but because you are prejudging before all the facts are in and it is a pattern!

Discernment a master key and thus know thyself a great phrase. Maybe one is bringing up the past, something that happened and you felt judged and ridiculed. This is a moment for forgiveness to be used. Maybe you were a not so smart cookie and they are right but we all have many of those scenarios. So carrying judgment against yourself, will only keep that issue, that seed of distaste for your ignorance and create it again and again. It builds your shadow self. Self development is about embracing this ignorant dark side so we work to clear these judgments.

That moment or later as you are beating yourself up yet again, is the time to do forgiveness. We use a great line to clear our judgment of others and ultimately ourselves. "I forgive myself for judging myself for........ You keep using this line, ending it as many ways as you can til this judgment clears. You will feel when you let it go and allow that restriction to release. You can also use that line to forgive yourself for judging so and so for....... These are powerful clearing tools. Judgment is a huge block in our sharing our spirit so to for give is clear. Usually, we judge when another doesn't do something our way or they judge us when we don't do things their way.

On this planet there are so many ways to do things. We all want allowance to do our own way even if it is wrong. We have to allow others as well. Doing this would clear of judgment. However, that is a high ideal. We do need to get along and at some point we have to accept and work with others. We carry so many judgments within. Societal, family, religious, political, social, personal, it is lots of ideas of how things should be. Often we can have different views on one thing and yet love them in so many other areas.

This forgiveness allows us freedom, diversity and openness from carrying so much past. We become more fluid and can look at others and say inwardly,  "Wow. Maybe I would not do it that way but have fun. Or do it over there and I will move along."

It is lighter than judgment, it is acceptance. We all have judgments buried in us from past ignorance, we have many blocks to our true spirit. These things  block us from being ourselves. If we were judged or errored, we stuff that side of ourselves into the dark and it may have been a mistake. It may have been a protection. It may have been done in youth. But now, we have blocked energy and energy hiding it. Forgiving yourself for judging yourself for being an idiot. So what! Who cares? So you made a mistake. Do you want to keep living that judgment? If you don't clear it, the law says you will.

You give up your opinions, your judgments, your self berating habits, your errors, your mistakes. For Give! Give up! At one point you even chuckle. Everyone makes mistakes and continuously!! We know better so many times and chose wrong and then feel bad, guilty, judging ourselves. For what? The past is past. All have done things. We must learn to clear this or that shadow comes about again and again. We forgive others as well.  Often when we are judged, hurt or presented negativity, it may not be intended. One may be ignorant. They may be upset about something else and didn't mean to be unkind. We all have done this. We have all whacked out. We don't need to hold them hostage either.

Use this tool as you move through the world and the past comes up. I was with a friend that I had a falling out with a year ago. It got very negative. I could hold judgment and so could she. But whatever happened happened. We both made errors and saw things differently. In completing, we gathered and resolved peace. It is past. We need no negativity. We need not necessarily hang out either but we need to hold no grudge. It brought up the past, other emotions, other friends, other judgments of myself. I just walked through and forgave myself. I forgave the whole scenario too. Who really cares? The deal is over. The issues went down and it doesn't make us bad people. We just displayed bad behavior and we can move from each other.

I need not carry any anger, annoyance or negativity anymore. Big whip! Life has moved on. We had a great chat and sent each other off in love for we were good friends. Who knows why it all whacked out. In stressful times, you can't always decipher the mess. We moved from each other. It settled and we are on our way to other things of living. I forgave myself for any way I hurt her. I forgave her for anything I think she did to me. I left feeling glad to complete and let go. I don't need to carry anything of that crap with me! Who does? So we can keep being victims of others behavior? So we can keep judging good hearts by a few crappy acts? I have no time for that as I go forward. Arthritis is an illness of judgement. Who wants that?

Let bygones be "Bye!" "Gone!!" Give it up! It is a waste of energy and it is very ill producing in our body. It blocks our loving, our self esteem, our spirit from coming forward. So we all act like idiots. Do we need to feel this forever? Of course not. Let it go. For give it! Forgive yourself and others.

The freedom is so beautiful and empowering. A blessed tool.

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