It is a very valuable gift to sense others feelings, what they need even when their words express otherwise. We have this gift to help support and lift others as we all go through our journey here. I have experienced this gift, expanded my awareness of it through spirit study, playing with it and developed my ability to use it. This gift from our sensory nature has its positive and negatives.
The good thing is you are better able to serve and support others. You can lift and support them through their struggles. You can offer advice, knowledge and experience to help. We all like to help others and helping is part of our purpose here. As we lift others, we lift ourselves. Knowing the right thing to say or having had a similar experience, being able to offer valuable advice.
The challenging side is that often we pick up others peoples emotions, struggles, take them in, worry about them, allow them to bring us down. Or we take them on as our own and then try to root them out of ourselves. You can catch them like a cold from being near another, or walk away drained wondering why you suddenly feel down when you were feeling good and nothing has happened to change that. It is paramount that you know the difference between your energy and feelings versus someone else's. When you feel all the energy about you, it is not often an easy task without some training or awareness. It happens so quickly, we blend with others and it is an important task to clear others emotions and know the difference.
That being said the awareness I had was really more of a belief about the world. I realized that I believed somewhere inside that if things are hard, difficult or challenging, that I was not doing something right. I didn't ever quite understand difficulty as learning, as part of this world. I considered if I was in challenge, it meant something was wrong with me, I was not knowing or at a loss somehow. I expected the world to be fluffy and beautiful if I was being Godly or following the right path. I considered strife, grief, challenge as bad, rather than just part of being alive. If I felt someone in a lower emotion, I considered it my job to help and support or I was not a good, kind person or minister. Of course with my mind I know better. That is the thing with patterns. They are not just cleared by the logical mind. They go deeper in our subconscious and rule us beyond our thinking capacity.
There is truth in helping others as a way to serve. Yet it is not always necessary or our job. We are to help an assist if we can, if we have the energy or the lightness too. We have to be very careful that we are in a filled position ourselves before we offer help, allowing our brightness to overflow. If we help when we are depleted it is not so good a choice. For we are not in a position to give. Being an empath, when you feel others strife you automatically act to lift them for you do not want to feel that feeling. Often it is just as effective to bear witness to that sadness, rather than change it. It is not always wise to shift people from suffering for it is their learning to step through.We can sit with them, give love and understanding. That is effective as well, to hold the space, bearing witness, not doing anything.
This was a very freeing concept to catch and experience. Knowing that I do not always have to help and certainly not if I will deplete myself. It doesn't make me unkind or anything negative, it makes me aware of my own ability at that moment. I realize that strife, challenge and all others hardships are the way we all learn. They are part of our process here so it is not necessarily a bad thing when one is challenged. They are growing, refining their capabilities and often the pain is the healer. They transmute it with help or not, ultimately they grow in capability and understanding of themselves. Realizing I am not responsible to help is very freeing. For I had thought I must help if I had the knowledge or wisdom but that is not the truth in all cases.
Losing my expectation of a fluffy world and if not, things are wrong is also freeing. There is no moment where we land and a perfect world unfolds. Yes there are great moments of this that we ride but they certainly don't last in a changing environment where growth is the rule. Whenever challenge is about, there is opportunity to grow, learn, lift, transmute. This is freeing for I am not to expect all loveliness and when I see other than that, expect I have to jump in and do.We know this when we are balanced but when strife is around, it is not usually part of our awareness that it is good and growth.
Realizing we are all in this together to learn and grow into our beauty, gives me more freedom to understand the world and the negativity about. It is purposeful even when it feels it is not. No one likes to feel bad and it is our natural instinct to want to get to feeling good. We do this for ourselves but not for everyone else. If we are able, we try to lift and support others to know their brilliance. If we are not in our own, we certainly can't hold the space for another. It is not our job to always do that and we are perfectly supportivel if we bless them and walk away.
I am thankful for this deep understanding of my gift. I feel others vividly even when I am not near them. As I sense sadness, strife in others, it was always a call that I must do something. In this greater awareness I realize that is not the case. Often allowing others to be in strife is the gift of their learning to do it alone. Trying to support another when you are tired, causes more resentment and negativity than saying no often as well. Knowing ourselves, our level of clarity, our energy of brightness, all important awareness's so we don't get lost or confused in how to serve, what is ours and what is anothers work. Often we take on another's Karma without even being aware. That helps no one and ways down us all more. The one with the karma has to go through it again to learn. The one who took it is now weighted down with more to do than necessary. These principles important to understand.
In the end, strife, hardship, challenge need to be reframed to part of what just is, how we learn and the work of our lives. Being kind, spiritual, or a good person has nothing to do with being an unending support. Knowing ourselves, our work, our boundaries and our limits important to be true in service. Sometimes we are alone in our strife and it is perfect. Other times others are alone in strife and that is just perfect too. We may feel it but it doesn't mean there is anything to do but bless them, send light and love or pray.
Be clear on your understanding of yourself when you feel unclear. It is important for your health and beauty to know when to serve and when to walk no matter who it is. It is challenging to our underlying beliefs to honor ourselves first in this process. It is difficult at times to see a problem as good, uplifting and transforming. Yet these are better truths to live by as we flow through our experience's. Setting up the proper perspective is key.
This all a very freeing awareness for me!!!
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