If there was one key that all my spiritual study has taught me, it would be to forgive myself. Yes, forgive others as well but the main block to our growth is the ones that you make on yourself. They are the most self berating choices we make. Holding ourselves hostage to our past mistakes.
We have all made many, many mistakes through our life. These things are actually learning curves that we use against ourselves rather than the stepping stones they are. I am one who has done this too. Fortunately for all my study, I have learned to reverse these and stop holding things against myself. We are here learning almost daily. Since we were small there are many things we learned the hard way. This idea of perfection we have toward ourselves is one of our biggest challenges to growth. How about we call mis takes miracles of learning????
John Roger would say, "All are doing their best at any given moment. If you could of done better, you would of." So we would do better to consider we are doing our best. We could be tired or exhausted or stressed. No one is as bright, kind and centered under those conditions so mistakes and not so lovely behavior can result. Why hold ourselves hostage for not thinking clearly. It was just a bad day. We can forgive ourselves and have faith we will do better the next day.
Often these mistakes we repeat over and over are just our hard headed way to learn. If we really mess up, we learn. So often the spiral down is the best thing that could happen because we will learn it that time. It is the process we are in. We are constantly doing so many things at once, how could we do them perfectly? It is best to get good at forgiving ourselves. This allows us the compassion to forgive others. It is a wonderful key to start fresh each day. Not taking our old behaviors with us like a chain around our necks.
As we begin this new year, take a good look at this idea of forgiving yourself. You can light a candle, ask the Light of love to be present and take a piece of paper out to free form write. Ask yourself, "What do I need to forgive myself for?" Then write furiously all that comes to mind. Big, small, crazy, old, ridiculous and absurd. It doesn't need to be legible. Just get it out of your being and put it on paper. Keep going until you feel clear. Once you run out of things to write, burn up the piece of paper and think nothing of what was on it. Go direct yourself into something fun or physical. Let it all go with the paper and let is be what it was.
This is a beautiful process we use with all sorts of mental and emotional junk. Get it out on paper and remove it out of you. Be done with it. Notice new things as they come up and just forgive yourself right then and there. Nobody cares. If others hold you in account for something you did so long ago, move away from them. We are here to learn and thus we will. No sense to feeling guilty or bad about it for too long. We are all doing these things. No one is free of them. Lets all cut each other a break and ourselves by letting go and moving on.
May your new year begin with the trash and past taken out. No need to carry forward anything that is not going to build you forward. I am not saying do mean things and then forgive yourself. I am saying what is done is done. Let it go. Let others strifes against you go. Do your best and if you falter give yourself compassion. It is OK. We hold ourselves way to accountable for things over and over again, creating more of it. No need to let the past run you.
Break yourself free by adding forgiveness to your life. You always have the technique I described to use. Let's all move through this new year with a more forgiving attitude. It heals us. It unites us in understanding. It gives us greater health and energy.
There is great purpose in the words, " Get over it." We all need to do this for greater health and well being.
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