Self Love??

I get so many different sources of growth and empowerment in my mailbox and I must say that self love is not written effectively about. Woman really don't get that when you say "Love and Honor yourself." We hear it but have been trained to take care of others first.  Self love is not a thinking that you love yourself from an arrogant ego stance either, it is doing ACTIONS toward your best interest first!

When you love a child or a partner, how do you do that? You don't just think, "oh I love them", you don't just buy them some clothes or toys. It  is an treatment you give them, an active doing to love one. We do kind things for them.  We consider the wonder of making them a good lunch, conversing and focusing on them and their needs to be nourished and cared for . We do little things to make their life easier. We listen to them, we hold space for them and give them attention over other things that are waiting for attention. We encourage and inspire them when they are down or need support. We put their needs ahead of our schedule by adapting . When we love another we sense them. We use our intuition to see how they are feeling, an invisible sensing to know what will support them to feel good, loved and honored.

 If you tell me to sense myself, what is it I need, how am I feeling physically, emotionally, mentally and listening to those messages then I can begin to understand. Putting myself ahead of all other things so I am well and happy. Sitting down when I need to break instead of helping another. Making time for me, enjoying my shower and getting ready instead of answering to everyone else first. Going out for enjoyment with some friends rather than cancel because my needs are more important than my families needs that day. I get that.

We begin to understand how practice self love when we watch how we love others. Taking time to inspire yourself first! To motivate and nurture yourself when down like a friend would instead of critiquing yourself inside. When your start doing for yourself first all the things you do for others then it you get it and it awakens your shakti power. We have not been trained at this so it brings up our unhealthy martyr thinking for review. It is worth pushing through your guilt. Shakti is our feminine essence and switches life up quickly in all areas. It begins with self love! It is not a thinking! It is daily doing!