Boundaries Again! Important for the All Woman!

At this time with much confusion and strife about, I am again learning about boundaries and getting sunk into what it means. I am a high spirit, I create that, I put time and effort to raise my vibe and be joyful. Others chose their time differently or are too busy to do this for themselves. For me it is an imperative practice and I am naturally high energy.

It takes some energy and alert awareness to bring about my brightness! As the world is in mix, as I am myself, I see the value in creating boundaries about myself to conserve and use my energy in the direction I want. It is easy to co mingle with others emotions, feel their pain and thus deplete and use my bright energy to give to others. That is worthy, it is a good use sometimes if I have excess or am in a situation where it is helpful. I do not need to give it to everybody always. I can choose and use it for myself and helping others, but I get to choose that. I put forth time and effort to create it, so I am allowed to choose how and when I share it. It is my right.

Boundary is not just a word used mentally, like say "no" more often or however we learn it. It is a physical boundary as well for we are energetic, our emotions are energy that is how we share energy, and we must use this word boundary in physical terms as well. And not just if you don't like someone, you move. Sure, but even deeper what if you have to be near someone, it is natural to blend energy, it just happens. That is where boundaries come in. We can call our space about us in a protected field, in safety and clearly not blend with others consciously. It takes some practice that is for sure, but it is vital in understanding our emotional nature and our energy use. It is not some warrior mode naturally, it is to me like a queen and her respectful space you takes.

You are a field of your body and the areas around you. You have a vibe that you move in and it is your space. You can have it strong and protected yet flowing and blending with others, yet always keeping your sacred space in tact for yourself, choosing wisely how you intermingle. Some days and situations it is wonderful to share your energy, open your field to ones joy and catch the vibe. Or sit next to another knowing you have clear fuel, as they are lost or challenged, give them energy to move about. This is a conscious choice that must be looked at as we speak of boundaries, This is not a mental concept for woman, we must feel it, know our field, feel safe in it to use it properly. I have heard this mentally many times but I am learning the emotional nature and sensual ways of woman, and it makes clearer sense when you add in the emotionality to it.

Durga is a goddess that represents boundaries. Her poem below so you can get the feeling message of how she is protective and wise with her field. I think woman need to learn this very deeply so they can effectively use their nature properly. Helping others when they have excess or close concern, not mixing with all and their natures, knowing their field is for them as well to thrive and move forward. Still aware of your space, your feeling connected and not barricaded in a negative way but protective of your space in a healthy, safety way.

Since we feel this blending so naturally, it is hard for us to get what boundaries mean. It is our gift to feel, blend, balance and support others with this energy we have of connection. Yet so often we are not using it to our highest good which means others highest good. We are pilfering it away because it is just a mental concept, operating on that plane, not realizing the emotional, feeling boundary that Durga shows us to put in place for ourselves.

This is not selfish, or rude or in any way hindering others when we use this boundary rightly. We can offer support and all that wonderful energy to others but choosing how and when is the feeling behind the ""no". Not just no I can't, but physically thinking what is our space. How do I share it? What things do I pull around me in my sacred space to fuel me that belong to no one else and I feel contained, protected, barricaded from things I don't want? It is okay for us to create that and put up this safety barricade for ourselves energetically, it is not bad or unkind or fearful. I want you to get the responsiblity, ownership of this rightly.

 In Aharaj we build the vital body, which is part of this protective boundary that represents our immune system, building the fire and manipura center keeps our space clear and safe. We take ownership and responsibility allowing only what we want in. Burning off stress and keeping our field protected and clear as we can without thinking about it.

So look at boundaries again but take it deeper. To the emotional level. There is only so much energy in the day. In Tai Chi Chuan it is about conserving and using our energy wisely in movement . Not about consuming calories and spinning it off. It is about knowing our barrier, and yes everyone could enjoy a boost of positive energy. But we deem when we are going to share and boost others. We don't allow it to drain unconsciously without knowing what it is happening. No wonder we don't get this concept. It is of the emotional nature and no one ever explained it to me clearly. Now you know as much as me. I believe we need to hold our own sacred space, just for us, just for ourselves. The poem will make more sense this second time I post it.

Durga, Boundaries
When threatened by demons, I fiercely protect myself with all that I am
with all that I have, from deep within, I call forth what I need
I am the "Inaccessible" for I place myself beyond the reach of all who would destroy me
all that would annihilate me, all that tries to wound me
I am the "Unapproachable"

for nothing can get at me that I do not willingly let in
I dance the dance of oneness, only with what supports me, nurtures me, loves me
For all that does not I say,  approach at your own risk!
Amy Sophia Marashinsky

She is sharing the intensity of which we are supposed to manage our sacred space for ourselves. We allow what in and what we give out. It is our right. We wisely protect ourselves from others fields, emotions and energetic charge so we are moving in our own sacred space. How else can we be our authentic, unique, wonderful selves if we don't define it, feel good and safe in it so we may share it with whom we choose to lift up!