Boundaries For Health

Lots of talk about boundaries! We hear it but don't quite get it. That is because we are not truly getting the concept as a knowing within. It is a mental concept of saying no when we get overwhelmed. However, the truth is, it is a law of being that should be understood on all levels.

Empathy is the root of it. All woman are empathic. It is our gift from a deep space to feel others without any thinking. It is used so wisely in parenthood. We can feel which child is off and needs support at any given time. We are open and sensing others at a deep level naturally without any true understanding, it just is how we operate. It follows suit that we are all connected, all energy, blending and mixing together. It is often the explanation for overwhelming, erratic woman moments!

Your physical being is surrounded by an invisible, magnetic field. It is open with most as we move about. Boundaries is speaking to this field. We are allowed and supposed to be conscious of it as the first law of sovereignty. Keep yourself and your space clear. We walk about unaware of this field, open to all we meet. This explains why the mean cashier can effect your day. Your fields mix, you allow that negative energy to effect you, you leave with the feelings of the cashier.

Boundaries are important! Mental, emotional, physical, all effect us and need conscious attention when dealing with others. If you understand that you have a space and it is your job to keep it protected and only allow in others and their emotions and energy by choice. Since most are unaware of how this operates, it creates problems for us. Aharaj Yoga taught me to feel this physical space and the power I had in acknowledging it. This was an great shift in learning for me. Before, boundaries had just been an idea, a mental concept. The connectedness I have to others was not fully understood prior to that. That is why I have become a teacher in this art. It is transforming to understand this space.

Being aware that you sense people around from a very natural level through energy exchange. Knowing this is occurring now your job is to use it to your own forward movement. If you feel everyone and everything you see and hear very deeply, you will become exhausted. Your energy drained for no apparent reason and you struggle to accomplish your plans. Being clear that this is happening is most of the challenge. Once you notice, become aware how you feel others, you can go Hmmm, and think yes they are challenged, I sent them courage and I move on to the next. If you sit with them or unawaringly let their strife inside you, you lose energy. Observe, contain the difference between yourself and them, offer upliftment and support and then move onward.

This is setting proper, healthy boundaries. It is not our job to carries others burdens. In fact it is discouraged strongly in spiritual laws. We are here to support others and receive support in carrying our own. Our space and energy are needed for us to learn and grow in life. There is absolutely no reason to have others energy effect you other than as a sign post to feel who needs some love!

Here is a great poem from Amy Sophia Marashinsky. Durga is the Goddess of boundaries, that part of you that keeps you protected!

When threatened by demons
I fiercely protect myself
with all that I am
with all that I have
from deep within
I Call forth all that I need
I am "inaccessible"
for the place myself beyond the reach of all that would destroy me
all that tries to wound me
I am "Unapproachable"
for nothing can get at me that I do not willingly let in
I dance my dance of oneness
only with what supports me
nurtures me
loves me
for all that does not
I say approach at your own risk!

This is setting boundaries for health!